Lyrics
Je buien maken vlekken
(Your temper tantrums)
Op mijn hagelwit humeur
Op mijn hagelwit humeur
(Blacken my great mood)
Ik heb m'n handen op je heupen
Ik heb m'n handen op je heupen
(My hands are on your hips)
Maar m'n hoofd is bij de deur
Maar m'n hoofd is bij de deur
(But my head is at the door)
Ze zeggen dat het went
Ze zeggen dat het went
(They say you get used to it)
Ik heb het geprobeerd
Ik heb het geprobeerd
(I've tried)
Maar hoe ik het ook wend of keer
Maar hoe ik het ook wend of keer
(But no matter how I look at it)
M'n huis beschermt niet meer
M'n huis beschermt niet meer
(My house protects no more)
Het regent harder dan ik hebben kan
Het regent harder dan ik hebben kan
(It rains harder than I can handle)
Harder dan ik drinken kan
Harder dan ik drinken kan
(Harder than I can drink)
Het regent harder dan de grond aankan
Het regent harder dan de grond aankan
(It rains harder than the soil can handle)
Harder dan ik hebben kan
Harder dan ik hebben kan
(Harder than I can handle)
Je buien zijn de wolken
Je buien zijn de wolken
(Your temper tantrums are the clouds)
Aan mijn hemelsblauw humeur
Aan mijn hemelsblauw humeur
(Ruining my good mood)
Ik heb m'n handen op je heupen
Ik heb m'n handen op je heupen
(My hands are on your hips)
Maar m'n hoofd is bij de deur
(But my head is at the door)
Maar m'n hoofd is bij de deur
(But my head is at the door)
Je ogen blijven grijs
(Your eyes remain grey)
Ontkennen elke kleur
Ontkennen elke kleur
(Deny every color)
Het is alsof hier niemand woont
(It's like no one is living here)
Het is alsof hier niemand woont
(It's like no one is living here)
Alsof er niets gebeurt
(Like nothing is happening)
Het regent harder dan ik hebben kan
Het regent harder dan ik hebben kan
(It rains harder than I can handle)
Harder dan ik drinken kan
Harder dan ik drinken kan
(Harder than I can drink)
Het regent harder dan de grond aankan
Het regent harder dan de grond aankan
(It rains harder than the soil can handle)
Harder dan ik hebben kan
Harder dan ik hebben kan
(Harder than I can handle)
Je buien zijn te donker
Je buien zijn te donker
(Your temper tantrums are too dark)
Voor mijn hemelsblauw humeur
Voor mijn hemelsblauw humeur
(For my good mood)
Want mijn hoofd is in de wolken
Want mijn hoofd is in de wolken
(Because my head is in the clouds)
En m'n hand al bij de deur
En m'n hand al bij de deur
(And my head is at the door)
Het regent harder dan ik hebben kan
(It rains harder than I can handle)
Harder dan ik drinken kan
Harder dan ik drinken kan
(Harder than I can drink)
Het regent harder dan de grond aankan
Het regent harder dan de grond aankan
(It rains harder than the soil can
handle)
Harder dan ik hebben kan
Harder dan ik hebben kan
(Harder than I can handle)
Het regent harder dan ik hebben kan
(It rains harder than I can handle)
Harder dan ik drinken kan
Harder dan ik drinken kan
(Harder than I can drink)
Het regent harder dan de grond aankan
Het regent harder dan de grond aankan
(It rains harder than the soil can
handle)
Harder dan ik hebben kan
Harder dan ik hebben kan
(Harder than I can handle)
These lyrics are quite uncomfortable to say the least. I chose to link this song to a movie about a husband who has to take care for his mentally ill wife. Luckily the movie has more empathy for the sufferer than this song. Having said that, one could argue that my interpretation of this song is more sexist than the song itself. The song is written and sung by a man, but its lyrics are gender-neutral. It would not have been entirely wrong to link the song to a movie about woman who is abused by her husband.
The Movie: A Woman Under the Influence (John Cassavetes, 1974)
It's easy to see why Nick Longhetti (Peter Falk) loves his wife Mabel (Gena Rowlands). You can imagine that many years ago, Mabel was the most popular girl on the block. She probably hung around in blue collar bars, where she was desired by all the men. They saw in her a free spirit who sang and danced in front of everyone. Construction worker Nick was the lucky one for for who she fell. Now years later, it's clear that things weren't as rosy as they seemed back then. Mabel's behavior is the result of a mental illness, and nobody in this film is prepared for that.
I have written often that I am not really a fan of overtly realist modes of film making. I don't much care about documentary/fly on the wall aesthetics in narrative films. I often find them purposeless, as I don't think it's a film's job to present reality as it is. Moreover, I think film is an inherently subjective medium, and realist aesthetics are often used to present whatever is being shown as objective, as an unfiltered reality. I don't think that Cassavetes is doing that here, and the purpose of his aesthetic is very well clear. It allows him to focus fully on the actors, and in doing so allows them to portray their characters very vividly. They can now act in a theatrical way, and go over the top while their characters remain grounded in reality. This especially works very well for Gena Rowlands, who gives a fantastically unrestrained performance. She creates an often frightening character who even in her saner moments seems completely out of it. Even when she seems aware of the reality of the situation, it's not clear whether she grasps truly what is going on.
That uncertainty is I think the greatest strength of A Woman Under the Influence. There have been many films made about mentally ill, insane people. Very often these characters are rich, or members of the higher class. They are professors, or their sons, actors, businessmen, doctors, etc. And if they are not, the film makers are cultured, highly educated people. They know the problems their characters are facing, and try to make them understandable for the audience. I don't entirely like A Woman Under the Influence, but this is a film that is never more intelligent than its characters. Nick is completely out of his depth here; he has no idea how to deal with his wife's insanity. In fact, nobody around Mabel knows, least of all herself. And director John Cassavetes, at all times, remains on their level.
This is the first time I have seen this film, or any Cassavetes film for that matter. I had of course heard about it, and its themes. Now that I've seen it I think that any critic who tries to explain the reasons for Mabel's insanity is doing the film a huge disservice. There is a reason why Cassavetes doesn't even show a glimpse of Mabel's stay in the mental hospital. A Woman Under the Influence declines to offer any explanation for what's bothering Mabel, and why. It is entirely in the dark about it. It mirrors its characters confusion and their utter despair in not knowing how to deal with this situation. In doing so, the film also shows why other films don't take this approach. This is a film that's 2,5 hours of yelling, quarreling and suffering without much progress of any kind (thematic, narrative, stylistic). Cassavetes is relentless. He never changes his tone, never allows any room for breath. It can sometimes be enormously frustrating to watch, as Cassavetes repeats the same beats and points a bit too often for my taste. I also wish he'd offer a window into what Mabel is fighting for. What kind of woman would she be if she were sane? What are her desires and values? How does she actually want to behave? I would have found the film more interesting if it gave at least some answers to these questions. I am aware though that declining to do so, may be the point, and that the film's actual representation of Mabel may be a more realistic depiction of madness.